This week, I discovered one of my least favorite phrases in the English language.
“You’re so lucky.”
Why do I despise it so? Because it’s turned into the go-to phrase we use in any situation praising accomplishment — it diminishes hard work. Luck is when you win the lottery or find $10 in the street or win a contest. Luck is by chance.
The hard work we put into our accomplishments is just that — work.
Because I spent six months being underpaid at two internships while taking night classes at portfolio school, I have a well-paying job as a copywriter. Because I spend hours every week working outside of work, I have a decent side-hustle writing for a San Diego publication. It wasn’t luck that sent me to Europe — it was two months of working overtime to get ahead of projects and spending early mornings and late nights in Europe working on assignments.
I am thankful for all of this and often I even find myself saying, “I am so lucky” because that makes it sound easy, it makes it sound less like bragging. But the truth is, we earn our accomplishments — and we deserve to celebrate them. We deserve to reward ourselves for the lives we create, the adventures we go on, the love we surround ourselves with.
The life you are living is because of you — the good and the bad. When it’s bad it’s easy to play the victim and when it’s good it’s easy to thank lady luck.
But it’s you. And when you’ve made yourself a life to be proud of, don’t diminish it by chalking it up to luck.
Own your accomplishments. Don’t let luck take credit for the tireless work you put in every day to create your life.
Recipes I Tried
I’m still on the chia seed pudding kick for breakfast. This week I made it using coconut almond milk, cinnamon, and honey again for the base pudding. Then I added chopped cashews, strawberries, and ground flax.
In other news…I PICKLED ONIONS! This is not a hard thing to do, see here. However, pickled onions are my second favorite type of onion next to caramelized onions and now I have a whole jar of them sitting in my refrigerator because dreams do come true.
For lunch, I made Greek quinoa bowls. You need: hummus (I used roasted red pepper), olives, feta (you can get olives with feta at the olive bar in any grocery store), tomatoes (diced), and chicken (rotisserie per usual). I added some pickled onions to this as well and it was delicious.
Articles I Read
Proudly Thirsty, PopSugar
The NYT crossword is old and kinda racist, The Outline
Don’t Wonder About Your Paycheck, Ask for it, Alana Massey
What Mass Killers Really Have in Common, The Cut *This is an old article, but after the shooting this week, it’s relevant.
What I Learned About Interruption from Talk Show Radio, Last Word on Nothing
Becoming Georgia O’Keefe, New Republic
A Whimsical Wordsmith Charts a Course Beyond Twitter, New York Times
The Moths, Mary Oliver *This is a poem and not a new one, but it really resonated with me this week.
Walnut Cat Litter: To the surprise of no one, the worst part of owning a cat is the litter. It tracks, it can be dusty, and of course, it smells. I’ve been looking for an alternative to clay litter for awhile, but everything I’ve tried has either a)not worked or b) my cats didn’t like. I gave up for awhile and accepted my relationship with clay litter, but then I started reading about walnut litter. So I forked over $12 ready to fail once again, but it worked! It clumps, no dust, and there’s no tracking. Even better, it covers the smell much better.
Orphan Black: I was a season behind on this show, for no reason other than it is hard to keep up with all the shows I love and want to watch while not letting myself fall into a television binge. I finally caught up and was reminded how much I love this show. It’s weird, as most sci-fi is, but Tatiana Massey is an amazing actress. She plays multiple characters is this show, all with distinct personalities and accents, who often interact with each other. If you are looking for a new show and have Amazon Prime, spend your next lazy day joining the clone club — you’ll understand what I mean.
Alana Massey: I’ve praised Alana before — her words, her book, her humor. I recently took a class with her about making a living from writing and it was one of the best classes I’ve taken. She’s a thoughtful teacher and an all-around great human. She’s teaching the class again and I highly recommend it. Sign up here
I will be spending this weekend catching up on writing because as I’ve come to realize, being a writer means having homework all the time. On Sunday, however, I’m going to Wonderspaces, a new art exhibit in town that looks magical. In between the writing and the magic, I’ll be cleaning because I have visitors for the rest of the month!