A few years ago, I was talking to someone and they asked me a question I find myself repeating regularly.
“How do you want to make people feel?”
We’re often asked what kind of person we want to be, or what kind of person we are, but that phrasing changed everything. We can be a lot of different things, but our “being” doesn’t always translate to feeling. Wanting to be successful, doesn’t leave someone else with a feeling.
“Well, frick, I don’t know, I want them to feel good” was my immediate answer, but when I had the chance to really think about it, I decided I wanted to make someone feel loved, heard, and capable.
Being aware of how we want to make people feel reels in a lot of our own emotions — ones that lead us to take things out on others, pick unnecessary fights, or put our interests first. I don’t always succeed at this because what human can — we’re humans and humans are messy. This world has a lot of bad in it and it’s easy to drown in that. But we’re all forced to be on this earth together and we do get a choice in how we are going to make each other feel at the end of the day.
Recipes I Tried
This week was formally known as “Slow Roasted Tomatoes Five Ways.” For reasons I can’t explain, I bought a very large bag of plum tomatoes — okay, the reason was they were on sale and looked delicious. To roast, preheat the oven to 200 degrees, half the tomatoes and place them cut-side up on a sheet pan. Drizzle some olive oil, salt, pepper, and whatever dried herbs you desire. Way one: In a quinoa salad with mozzarella, spinach, and artichoke hearts. Way two: Pureed into a tomato sauce with pasta. Way three: Bruschetta with mozzarella and prosciutto. Way four: served with roasted eggplant and sauteéd spinach. Way five: turned into a roasted tomato corn salsa for tacos.
Articles I Wrote
Articles I Read
How a Pro-Life World has a lot of Dead Women in it, Harpers Bazaar
On Influence, and Using it Wisely, Adventurous Kate
Let’s Ban Roses, The New Yorker
From Russia with Blood, BuzzFeed
Kevin Murphy Staying Alive Leave-In Treatment: The water in San Diego doesn’t do great things to my hair, which is to say it is always a ball of frizz. At the suggestion of my hair stylist, whom I adore, I’ve been trying out this product for the last few months. It is easily the best smoothing product I’ve tried out so far and it moisturizes, which my hair desperately needs. Bonus: all products use natural ingredients sourced from companies using micro-cultivation, organic growing practices, or ecologically sound wild harvesting techniques.
This dancing Gorilla: Look, I don’t even need to explain this one
This weekend, my dad is in town! We’re doing all of our favorite San Diego things and I’m hoping to show him a few of my discoveries.