Last night I had dinner with a good girlfriend of mine and we got to talking about highlight reels. The way we compare our lives to the lives other people choose to share. I believe in celebrating our accomplishments. This idea that we have to be humble about the amazing things we do, the raises we get, the things we make, it’s absurd. I also believe in being real about it. An example: I recently got a raise at work, am being trained as an associate editor at a freelance gig, and have a few other projects happening that I am really excited about. Highlight reel. The reality? I bit off way more than I can chew this month and am struggling to stay afloat mentally. I’m in front of my computer from 7am to 11pm most days and I haven’t read more than 20 pages in a book for a month. This week I had to shuffle around a few meetings because my schedule gave me so much anxiety I thought about faking sick.
It’s easy to get in the mindset that everyone is doing better than us. That we’re the only ones struggling to keep up with our lives and goals. That’s just not true. and there’s nothing wrong with it. The reality of the situation is the only way a highlight reel can even exist. Embrace your highlight reel, but don’t be shy about the reality.
Highlight reel: A stranger came up to me and told me I had the most stunning eyelashes they had ever seen. Reality: Maybe she’s born with it, maybe it’s Grande Lash eyelash serum. It’s the eyelash serum.
Recipes I tried
I didn’t cook anything earth-shattering this week because I had 30 minutes to meal prep for the entire week. Rice bowls it is! However, I did go to Campfire for dinner – my favorite restaurant in San Diego. My friend Arielle and I spoiled ourselves with fancy cocktails – mine was called the Charred Cactus and it had tequila, white peach, charcoal, sorrel, and lime. Then we split charred octopus, Heirloom tomatoes and burrata, Lamb crépinette, and Smores for dessert. It was the perfect Thursday and Arielle is always the perfect company.
Articles I wrote
Not Sleeping? Neither Are These San Diego Restaurants, There San Diego
Articles I read
I recommend a Snail, Alanna Okun — this will have you crying about a snail. You’ve been warned
The Surprisingly Humanlike Ways Animals Feel Pain, National Geographic
Millennials Are Changing the User Experience of Finance, Digital Telepathy
History is Written by the Russians, The Awl
To Have and Have Not: Hemingway’s Unrequited Love and Early Life, The Paris Review
This is How It Feels to Me, The Guardian — WRITERS you need to read this.
This week’s love note comes in the form of people. Cat & Erin. Who subscribe to this silly thing and always quote their favorite part. They also follow my freelance writing and send me screenshots when they see it as a sponsored post on Facebook. I like them a whole lot, and I’m not just saying that because they are reading this now. (Hi you two, I love you a whole lot.)
Grande Lash-MD: This is the best money I have ever spent and I’d like to thank the stranger who reaffirmed my vanity this week. Erin and Arielle also complimented my eyelashes this week, but they’ve known about my secret for awhile now. I’m linking to the product site for the sake of information but it’s cheaper on Amazon and Overstock.