I read an article this week (linked below, first article) that talked about the resilience of teens and how it’s our job to make sure they survive the tragedies like the Manchester bombing.
“To inject joy and nourish camaraderie and refrain from tainting their world views with our own biases. Now, it’s up to us to make sure that they retain their esteem and confidence and willingness to experience joy — that we listen to them”
The sentiment got me thinking about how older generations treat younger generations. I am consistently infuriated by articles that describe millennial’s as lazy and entitled – articles that range from saying we could buy a house if we stopped buying avocado toast to ones that wonder why millennial’s aren’t buying diamonds. (It’s obviously because I’m buying avocado toast, asshole). We inherited a shit economy and environment. Once upon a time college was affordable and it more than likely guaranteed a job that paid a living wage but now, even pursuing higher education is wrongfully an out-of-reach privilege. We are given aged advice that doesn’t pertain to the world we’re living in. Talk to me after you spend a few years juggling restaurant jobs with unpaid internships while you sink yourself into debt because working 50 hours a week doesn’t pay your bills. Yet, older generations will continue to poke fun and offer unwarranted advice while telling us to lighten up when we don’t find it funny.
I mentioned this to an adult once and they responded, “well, that’s what the older generation did to us too.”
Doing things the way they’ve always been done doesn’t change anything, it doesn’t allow for innovation – for better things to come about. Not accepting “the way it’s always been done” is how women fought for the right to vote, how Blacks fought for their right to be recognized as humans and not property, how the right to marry is no longer defined by your sexual orientation. It’s how we landed on the moon, it’s how we can fly across the world in a metal tube, it’s how you are reading this on your screen right now.
We tell youth they aren’t good enough, they aren’t working hard enough, that they don’t understand how easy they have it. What purpose does it serve? What good comes out of making the most vulnerable age group feel bad about themselves?
This world, more than ever, is a terrifying, challenging place to exist as a human being. We don’t need to make it harder than it already is. Make it easier where and how you can. When you’ve made it through the door of “success”, hold it open behind you. Listen when you don’t understand rather than talk louder. Make a conscious effort to put yourself in the shoes of the generation younger than you, because I guarantee, their shoes are a whole lot different than the shoes you had at their age.
Articles I Wrote
All the Ways You Can Celebrate National Wine Day in San Diego, There San Diego
Beer’d Out? Wine Your Way Through One of These San Diego Wineries, There San Diego
Articles I Read
Never Underestimate the Resilience of Teens, 29secrets
Feminism and the (False) Fear of Dying Alone, Harpers Bazaar
You Should’ve Asked, EmmaClit
“Failure is only ever positive after you’ve achieved the kind of success that miraculously grants it the veneer of self-improvement.”
A Love Story, The New Yorker
White Women Drive Me Crazy, BuzzFeed
What If We Cultivated Our Ugliness, Catapult
Who Gets to be Low Maintenance, Racked
It’s a long weekend! On Saturday, I’m going to a Sofar concert – a pop-up concert with undisclosed artists, you don’t even know the location until 48 hours before. This is also one of the first weekends in awhile where I don’t have to catch up on any projects so I’m hoping I can squeeze in some personal reading and writing.